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Stages of Relief After a Traumatic Period

1 Aug

I had this idea months ago and wanted to take the time I needed to process everything before I wrote this. Honestly, I still don’t feel fully prepared to do this “correctly,” but I don’t know that I ever will,...
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Yes, You are Disabled Enough, and Why You Should Say So

3 Jul

I recently talked to someone who questioned whether she was “disabled enough” to identify as disabled. She said she had a “mild” version of her condition and hesitated to even talk about it. I really related to this, because sometimes...
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The 13 Things I Feel When I Cancel Our Plans Due to My Chronic Illness

5 Jun

Oh, the things we do with the English language, and being a creative with a degree in English, it often downright delights me. Some of our current linguistic trends, carried by the cool kids, include saying “feels” rather than “feelings”...
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When I Play Favorites with My Chronic Conditions

30 May

This week it occurred to me that I play favorites with my chronic health conditions. What I mean is, I most often identify as someone with fibromyalgia and downplay my other conditions. Today, I decided I’d write about it, not...
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The New & Improved “Easy Daily Journal”

20 May

Last year, I shared my list-based daily journaling technique that really helped me connect with joy, hope, and resolve during some tough times. Well, I’ve kept it up, and it’s evolved! I think it’s a lot better now, and I...
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Why Asking “How can I help?” is Problematic (and Tips to Rephrase)

23 Apr

“Is there anything I can do?” It’s a common question from caring people. We ask it when someone is stressed. We ask when someone is grieving. The caring people in my life ask when one of my chronic conditions is...
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Combating the Myth of Endings

9 Apr

One of my struggles has always been the evening appointment. I remember when I was a waitress and worked evenings, it was hard for me to be productive and enjoy the day because I had this thing to do later,...
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I Just Made a “Reset Box”: What’s Inside

28 Jan

It was quite a journey of thought, which I won’t bore (or frighten) you with, but I’ll tell you where I landed. I decided to make a piggy bank of sorts, filled with ways to reset a moment when I...
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11 Things I Do at Bedtime That Make Life a Little Better

22 Jan

I love preparing ahead for myself. Doing those little (or big) things that might make a future moment better. (It’s why I keep up my Splatquake kit.) So doing little things for my tomorrows has become part of my bedtime...
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Mantra Checkpoints for Impossible Days

6 Dec

I do love using the Splat system and the Impact Map to help manage self-expectations and to lighten the load, when I’m having my worse days, without all the guilt. But there are plenty of times in life when adulting...
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