{"id":2833,"date":"2025-09-29T13:07:08","date_gmt":"2025-09-29T17:07:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.christinairene.com\/wp\/?p=2833"},"modified":"2025-09-29T13:07:09","modified_gmt":"2025-09-29T17:07:09","slug":"facing-social-and-work-lives-after-an-extended-flare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.christinairene.com\/wp\/archives\/2833","title":{"rendered":"Facing Social and Work Lives After an Extended Flare"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.christinairene.com\/wp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/workplayrest.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"960\" height=\"720\" src=\"https:\/\/www.christinairene.com\/wp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/workplayrest.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2835\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.christinairene.com\/wp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/workplayrest.jpg 960w, https:\/\/www.christinairene.com\/wp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/workplayrest-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.christinairene.com\/wp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/workplayrest-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.christinairene.com\/wp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/workplayrest-940x705.jpg 940w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>I&#8217;ve had quite a rough run with my chronic illnesses these past several months. Really, it&#8217;s been building up over two-and-a-half years, since I got COVID. Now, I&#8217;m finally making some headway. With help from medical professionals, I&#8217;m finally starting to feel better. I went from zero &#8220;good days&#8221; to having more good days than bad. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">I&#8217;ve got choices &#8212; choices I haven&#8217;t had in months.<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>During my &#8220;super flare,&#8221; any day I felt even a bit like an actual human being, I would tackle as many tasks as I could, not wanting to miss the rare opportunity to get stuff done. It&#8217;s a hard thing to turn off now. Rest is now a choice, not something I am forced to do because I can do nothing else. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">But will I actually choose rest? Yes. Here&#8217;s why.<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>With chronic illnesses like my fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, and post-COVID syndrome, I come to think of rest as this binary thing that&#8217;s either forced upon me or is a luxury I can&#8217;t access. I shift into accepting this idea much like I have, in the past, coped with a miserable job or even a toxic relationship. When the weight and restrictions of my our conditions are lifted, when the flare subsides, even just for a little bit, I have to drop those coping mechanisms and remember that I deserve to choose rest as much as a non-disabled person, even when I don&#8217;t have the choice, and especially when I do. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">I will&#8230;<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Continue to rest when I don&#8217;t feel well.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Enjoy rest on some days I *do* feel well; it&#8217;s marvelous!<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Not try to &#8220;catch up&#8221; on goals I didn&#8217;t hit during the flare.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Not overdo it &#8220;making up for lost time.&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Be in the moment and just do what I would do, without looking back on how things were.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Remember I deserve this as much as anyone else.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What about my friends and family?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>This is something I experience not just coming out of a flare, but coming out of an intensely busy time with my work. I pushed off making plans with folks because I was too busy or feeling monumentally awful, and now that I&#8217;m able to, there is the temptation on my part and the expectation on their part that I&#8217;m going to eclose as a social butterfly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Please give me a little time, though!<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Before booking up  my social calendar, I want (need!) to&#8230;<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Decompress.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Tidy up the piles and messes I left while I could only do what was absolutely necessary.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Clean my house.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Have some &#8220;me time.&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Enjoy my hobbies.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Rest &#8230; because I choose to.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>I&#8217;m not selfish when I say the first person I need to spend time with is *me*. I&#8217;m more responsible for myself than anyone else is responsible for me, and I need to take care. Then we&#8217;ll hang out, and you&#8217;ll get a much better version of me when that little six-item list above is taking care of.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve had quite a rough run with my chronic illnesses these past several months. Really, it&#8217;s been building up over two-and-a-half years, since I got COVID. Now, I&#8217;m finally making some headway. 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