What Not to Say to Someone with a Hidden Disability

24 Jan


Those of us who’ve had a chronic illness or a mental health diagnosis for at least a little while end up hearing some of the same things over and over from people who might mean well but end up coming across as insensitive or ableist.

I reached out to a few communities on social media to compile our pet peeves, and they go like this:

  • “Everybody has something.”
  • “I’m sad, too.”
  • “I hurt, too.”
  • “Drink more water.”
  • “Exercise more.”
  • “Lose some weight.”
  • “Find a new hobby.”
  • “Just get out and do something.”
  • “You’ll get over it.”
  • “It’ll get better.”
  • “You still have that?
  • “Well, at least ________.”
  • “You should eat ________.”
  • “Have you tried ________?”
  • “I had that and it went away.”
  • “My ________ has that, and they just ________.”
  • “You’re doing too much.”
  • “You need to take better care of yourself.”
  • “You probably just have low ________.”
  • “You’re too young to have all that.”
  • “Can’t you just get surgery?”
  • “You’ve gotten through worse.”
  • “You should try a different doctor.”
  • “You should get a second opinion.”
  • “You use that as an excuse for everything.”
  • “There’s always something with you.”

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