Why Asking “How can I help?” is Problematic (and Tips to Rephrase)

23 Apr
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“Is there anything I can do?” It’s a common question from caring people. We ask it when someone is stressed. We ask when someone is grieving. The caring people in my life ask when one of my chronic conditions is...
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5 Reasons I’ll Never Wear These Shirts

22 Apr
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I’ve gotten some of the strangest “targeted advertising” showing up in apps. Dating sites for a different sexual orientation than I am (Christina, you’ve been single FOR. EVER. Why not try a different tack?) Those lewd-looking items with seemingly normal...
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Combating the Myth of Endings

9 Apr
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One of my struggles has always been the evening appointment. I remember when I was a waitress and worked evenings, it was hard for me to be productive and enjoy the day because I had this thing to do later,...
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I Have a Sitting Disability: What That Means

26 Mar
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It’s something you hear about. In fact, I had the condition for years before I knew it had a name. It’s not exactly official. You won’t find it on the Center for Disease Control’s (CDC’s) website or even WebMD. But...
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4 Things People with Disabilities Find Helpful When We’re “Out in the World”

20 Mar
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One of my speaking programs on disability has a strong focus on universal design, which is defined as making spaces, objects, and experiences accessible to all people regardless of disability or other difference. Yes, this means having ramps, but much,...
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My Mortifying Evening With Fibro

21 Feb
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I can’t blame it all on fibromyalgia. My printer had its share of guilt. And of course COVID. The snowstorm wasn’t innocent. Yet wherever the blame may go, it was I who was mortified. Last Thursday evening, the municipal authority...
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