Why Asking “How can I help?” is Problematic (and Tips to Rephrase)

23 Apr
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“Is there anything I can do?” It’s a common question from caring people. We ask it when someone is stressed. We ask when someone is grieving. The caring people in my life ask when one of my chronic conditions is...
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5 Reasons I’ll Never Wear These Shirts

22 Apr
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I’ve gotten some of the strangest “targeted advertising” showing up in apps. Dating sites for a different sexual orientation than I am (Christina, you’ve been single FOR. EVER. Why not try a different tack?) Those lewd-looking items with seemingly normal...
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I Have a Sitting Disability: What That Means

26 Mar
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It’s something you hear about. In fact, I had the condition for years before I knew it had a name. It’s not exactly official. You won’t find it on the Center for Disease Control’s (CDC’s) website or even WebMD. But...
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4 Things People with Disabilities Find Helpful When We’re “Out in the World”

20 Mar
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One of my speaking programs on disability has a strong focus on universal design, which is defined as making spaces, objects, and experiences accessible to all people regardless of disability or other difference. Yes, this means having ramps, but much,...
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My Mortifying Evening With Fibro

21 Feb
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I can’t blame it all on fibromyalgia. My printer had its share of guilt. And of course COVID. The snowstorm wasn’t innocent. Yet wherever the blame may go, it was I who was mortified. Last Thursday evening, the municipal authority...
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An Unexpected Intersection of Ageism and Ableism

18 Sep
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From Oxford Languages: ageism /ˈājˌizəm/ noun prejudice or discrimination on the grounds of a person’s age. ableism /ˈābəˌlizəm/ noun discrimination in favor of able-bodied people. Ageism and ableism go hand-in-hand; the natural aging process is indicative of lessening capabilities and...
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No, Looking Young Is Not a “Good Thing” (And Why You Shouldn’t Say It Is)

13 Aug
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I’m 40 years old, and I look like I’m in my mid-20s. I’m not trying to brag, because I don’t believe this is anything to brag about. It’s more frustrating than anything. It’s been a thing probably my whole life....
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COVID-19 and PTSD: Who’s at Risk, Prevention Tips

26 Jun
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With everything terrible happening due to the COVID-19 pandemic, including medical trauma, deaths, mourning, worrying, loss of livelihoods, lost of access to necessary services and items, strain on families, aggressive interpersonal encounters, missed life events, crushed dreams, and fear the...
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Documinitary: Disabled Dog Teaches Her Favorite Coping Skill … on an Epic Adventure

5 Jun
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#Amicasmells: The Movie Last year, my dog Amica and I wandered around the United States (mostly the wild west) for 10 weeks. There were plenty of reasons behind the trip, some I knew going in, and some I didn’t know...
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